The fat requirement is approximately the same for men and women with the same total energy expenditure, but there are gender-specific differences in total energy expenditure, so that men have a slightly higher fat requirement on average.
There are different fats with different health effects. Of the natural fats, saturated fatty acids are more harmful. These are found primarily in hard fats such as butter, lard, animal fat, coconut oil and palm oil. Even more unhealthy are trans fatty acids, which also occur naturally, but are mainly artificially produced when fats are hardened or by frying. Health benefits, on the other hand, are attributed to monounsaturated and especially polyunsaturated fatty acids. These are found primarily in liquid vegetable oils such as olive oil, rapeseed oil and many others. Some of these unsaturated fatty acids are essential for humans, such as omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids. Of course, even for these fatty acids, which are considered healthy, the right amount should be consumed and too much is more likely to cause harm. So if you make sure that you consume about as much fat as you need and that most of it consists of polyunsaturated fatty acids, then that should be actually helpful for a healthy diet.